Grieving a Loss Can Leave a Hole in Your Heart

A Vacant Heart

After you lose someone or something you love, there is usually an emptiness you feel inside. You may think the empty space will never be filled; you may feel as if there is a hole in your heart that will remain forever. The death of a loved one, the loss of a pet, or the loss of a relationship can leave your heart aching as you grieve for who and what you’ve lost. A portion of your life was occupied by that relationship and when it’s gone, there is a void left not only in your heart but in your life also. Time was spent in the relationship; you did things together while enjoying each other’s company. With a significant loss, it may be hard to figure out how to continue on with everyday life when so much of your life was wrapped up in what is now gone. Sometimes it’s the things we lose that cause a grieving heart. Homes and possessions are destroyed by fire, storms, and other disasters while some significant belongings are lost or stolen. The loss of special and irreplaceable things can also cause a vacant heart.

Filling the Void

It should never be assumed that anyone or anything could take the place of what you’ve lost; you can never replace what is gone. However, there are things you can do and people you can spend time with that will help your heart recover by filling the void that was left behind. What things could you do that would help fill the hole in your heart? There is no greater therapy for a broken, empty heart than to share that heart and spread love to others. This may seem difficult at first but once you get started, you will realize the benefits. You can start out simply by sending a letter or card to someone who needs it, or telling a special person that you love him or her, or giving someone a hug or encouragement. Be courteous and show kindness to others; give a friend, or stranger, a compliment. Reach out of your comfort zone to connect with others. You may want to try calling a friend, reconnect with an old friend or make an effort to meet new friends. It can help to show love and affection to your pet or if you don’t have one, adopt one. Pets are great companions to share daily activities with along with sharing unconditional love. You may want to volunteer your time and skills to a deserving person or organization. You could also tutor or teach others something you know and enjoy. By helping others, they benefit from your assistance and yet your heart benefits even more!

A Strong Heart

It also helps a grieving heart to be active. Be physically active by exercising, playing a sport, or trying a new game. It can be inspiring to try a new hobby, art, or craft. Push yourself a little to learn about something new and interesting. Explore your surroundings with a new point of view and look for ways to fill the vacancy in your heart. Even though your heart will never be exactly the same, and your loss can never be replaced, there are still things you can do to help fill the empty spaces. Your heart may be different now, but if you fill it with love, it can beat even stronger from now on!